RECIPE FOR THE PERFECT WORLD author TJAC

With a Dash of Confidence

and a drop of pride,

10 gallons of unity,

a pint of protection at your side,

a liter of people willing to give,

Would make the perfect world to live.

Is the grass really greener on the other side of the fence?

The grass is always greener on the other side
And better days are always waiting 'round the corner bend.

You never see the real story until you live it.

We have all been unhappy with something that we are doing or someone we are with or something that we have. 

It always looks better. The other side, the grass on the other side. Not just the grass, also the neighbor's wife, your friend's sports car, your boss's apartment, your colleague's job and how ever many examples you want to hear.

So many people are not entirely satisfied with what they have. They think that all the above examples would be a better way to live their lives. What they don't realize is that often they already have so many perfect things in their lives (their friends, partner or spouse, job). The sad part is that is usually takes losing or nearly losing what they have in order for them to realize how much it means to them (and how happy they were with what they had).

We All Take Things For Granted

We all take so much for granted. It takes a lot of emotional stability to be content with what you have. To be able to resist the temptation of thinking that other people have it better.

“Sometimes the dream and the desire for something are much more appealing than actually getting the thing that you think you want.”

A sports car, bank balance or supermodel girlfriend may be what you think will make you happy, but when you get it, you may feel empty and unsatisfied. The deception with seeing things that you think will make you happy is the fact that you only see the good side of those things. Once you have them, you will see them without the rose-colored glasses and experience the lesser or bad side of them as well and this may leave you thinking that it was better when it was just a dream.

The Key to A Happy Life

I think the key to a happy life is being content with who you are and where you are right now. Life is an awesome journey. That is not to say that you should settle for average or a life you are not happy with. You can and should work hard to where you want to be, to achieve your goals and dreams.

Everyone always wishes for something they don't have. Maybe you want to be like someone else in certain ways, maybe you want to live someone else's life because you think yours sucks. Truth is, you may not have an easy life, but it is your life. The rest of your life is what you make of it.

It is your life, your adventure. It is a gift. If you are lucky enough to have your freedom and your health, then I believe that anything is possible. Where there is a will, there is a way.

 
So next time you think someone has it better than you, just stop and think about how others may think you have it better than them. The grass on your side may just be greener.

Taken from Diggy. Diggy who writes all about self improvement at his blogUpgradeReality. 

If you can't make it better, you can laugh at it. Erma Bombeck

When reading this blog note, start smiling and do not stop until you finish reading.  There have been studies proving that smiling and laughter are good for you. Even if you fake a smile, you will still feel better than you did before doing so. Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There is a good chance your mood will change for the better.



Dec. 13, 2010 /NewsRelease/ -Smiling is nice, clean, enjoyable, and releases endorphins that causes us to really feel much better.  Even ‘faking’ a smile can lead to feeling happier.(Nutrition Diet News)


Studies have also shown that smiling and laughing release endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin – the body’s feel-good chemicals. In a sense, happiness is a natural drug! - Dr. Berger's Blog


When trying to find factual information regarding the amount of muscles used to smile or frown, it seems that there is none because everyone have different facial muscles and use different muscles for different effects.  There are many legends, stories and myths, but none of them are true.  


It  is true that smiling and laughter make you feel better.  So since you have been smiling the whole time you have been reading this blog, you are now feeling better than you did before you started, right?  lol    Just remember, if you give someone else a smile it definitely will make them feel happier.  

"The bend in the road is not the end of the road unless you refuse to take the turn" - Anonymous

Some would say that losing their job through layoffs or other unforeseen circumstances, is depressing and not a very positive experience. The older a person is when losing a job, the harder it is to except.  When leaving a position I had been in for 10 years, because of cut backs, I felt a large part of me had been taken from away. Very quickly I was able to find another job to go to, starting a new type of career.  This lasted a few years before I found a position with a mortgage company that I really enjoyed and felt I was able to help others. Two years later, thinking I had found what I wanted to do now for the rest of my life, I was given notice that the company was closing. To be honest, I was excited because this would be my chance to go back to school. Due to reasons of funding, I was not able to fulfill this. After a year, I was offered a job with a bank in their mortgage department.  Being a secure company, I thought I would be there until I would retire.  Once again, two years later I was again laid off because the bank sold and the new owners did not need our services anymore.  This time the funding for school worked out and I am now able to make myself more marketable in a field which I enjoy.
Ok, so what does all this mean?  Well, when I was laid off and unable to go to school, my family needed me at home. So it ending up being a blessing.  If I had not been laid off this time, I would not be in school now.  Things always seem to happen for a reason. Of course, I could sit and dwell on what could have been and be sad. But I would rather dwell on what can be and work towards it. I am glad that I had to leave the 1st job of 10 years. Yes, it was scary. But if I had not left, I would not be working on what I will be when I grow up.